| Dear Josey,
Both my husband and I are very heavily into role-playing and love CFNM or CMNF scenarios. One of my favourite games is to have my husband stand on a stool, blindfold him and then proceed to cover him in oil, especially around his genital area. I even stick a finger up his anus to stimulate his prostate gland. Can you give us a script that we could use at home to try and add some zip to our scenario?
– Looking for New Game Plans
Dear In Need,
Sounds like you’ve got a pretty zippy little script going already there. For those of you who aren’t up on their role-playing acronyms, CFNM and CMNF stand for Clothed Female/Naked Male and, you got it, Clothed Male/Naked Female. Though technically, that would mean every guy who goes to a strip club is a CMNF enthusiast, no? Then again, in some ways they are role-playing. He’s the voyeur and she’s the exhibitionist with a complex power play going on between the two. But beyond Chippendales or other goofy men’s strip revues, you just don’t see a lot of women with their clothes on watching dudes get naked in our culture, which might explain why CFNM scenarios, images and videos seem so much more prevalent online. Except that most of them seem to still be for the benefit of men.
As one male CFNM enthusiast explains: "The idea of a strong, sexy woman making a man strip for her pleasure totally turns me on. I can't imagine in this day of female empowerment, more women aren't jumping on the CFNM train. I figure it's the best of both worlds – women can maintain control while feeding man's desire to show off."
As long as you’re cool with calling yourself Tiffany or Brandi in whatever scenarios you come up with, you can find scene-inspiring links that will no doubt put some zip in your CFNM/CMNF step at the following website: http://allthingscfnm.blogspot.com.
Hi Josey,
I watched Matchmaker last night and a woman had some "esthetical" treatment called vagina smoking! I was quite surprised to say the least. I thought that if anyone knows what this is, you would. I am very curious to know what this is. Thanks.
Dear Blowing,
Don’t you just love Anthony on that show? Such a cutie. I didn’t see that episode and the only time I’ve seen vaginas and smoking in the same sentence was in magazines and websites geared to men who get off on women getting themselves off while smoking. So I called Tricon Film & Television, the producers of Matchmaker, and a very friendly woman named Carrie didn’t know exactly what Vagina Smoking was either, but she did know that in the episode, they sent a woman to the spa at the Fairmount Royal York Hotel in Toronto for it.
When I called the spa, a lovely woman named Ildi explained that the Venus Vagina Smoke was a part of their two-hour Balinese beauty ritual, usually reserved for brides-to-be and apparently quite the rage in the spa world these days. The woman sits naked in a chair with a hole in the seat while a bowl of seeds and herbs is burned under the hole. The smoke that wafts up into her vagina is meant to stimulate and disinfect the region so she’ll be all randy and, I guess, er, disinfected for her big night. Now you know.
Dear Josey,
As a female with hirsutism, I had a strong reaction to the reference in your recent column about gender-bending Lisa Maurer (April 13, 2006) and the fact that Maurer’s masculine appearance was characterized by her excess facial and chest hair.
When I was in high school coming to terms with my body, a young woman wrote you concerned about her excess body hair and whether men would be attracted to her. You referred her to hirsute fetish websites for men who have a fetish for hairy women.
I have always had excess body hair, which has greatly affected my self-confidence and my self-worth in relationships. When I checked these sites out, I felt more like a freak and wondered if these were the only guys who would find me attractive. I did not become sexually active until I was 21 in a relationship with a guy with no such fetish. However, your response left a huge impression on me as a young woman in high school and this recent article has prompted me to respond.
After undergoing many blood tests, unsuccessful trials on the pill, and scans to look for a glandular problem, I have learned that this is simply who I am. I have dark hair and dark eyes, and have European and Mediterranean ancestry. Many sources will inform you that this is a common occurrence and it is hard to define what is considered normal amounts of hair. I find you have not stepped outside of a typical North American WASP perspective.
Dear HPR,
You are absolutely right. Thanks for setting me straight and reminding me of my responsibility and encouraging us all to think beyond our cultural biases. As per your suggestion, here is a website that offers background and information about hirsutism: http://www.emedicine.com/DERM/topic472.htm. |
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