| I was a pretty whiny kid, but I used to relish in the things I could get from whining. On our long walks home from the bus stop, I remember whining until one of my older brothers or sisters would carry my lunch pail or, on a really good day, piggyback me home.
Admittedly, I'm still a pretty whiny adult, but it just doesn't generate the same benefits as it did when I was a child. Mostly it just annoys people.
For 26-year-old Patty, whining and acting like a little girl usually gets her some booty.
Before you start jumping to all kinds of conclusions about how Patty is a pedophile's dream date, or thinking that the guys who want to sleep with her are sickos, consider that Patty actually believed that herself once. At the time, she was working as a rape and phone counsellor at the Children's Aid Society.
Patty had also dabbled in S/M and heard about daddy/little girl role-playing, but was "creeped out" by the idea.
Then, one day, bored and surfing the Internet, she found her first "daddy." When she encountered his ad, her first instinct was to fire it off to the police. But the Ken-doll face staring out at her from the ad, and his specification that he was not interested in children and that no one younger than 20 (with proof of age) need apply, made her curious.
"I thought it was odd because if he really were a pedophile, why would he be so specific about not responding to anyone under 20?"
She decided to write him and find out what his gig was. He suggested they meet. She said thanks but no thanks. But she continued talking to him and found him bright, interesting and well educated.
Eventually, curiosity got the best of her and she decided to meet him. And, as they say, that was the beginning of a beeyooteeful friendship.
The role-playing was tricky at first. "I was into the whole Goth thing as a teen, so the idea of someone enjoying me in pink made me want to gag," laughs Patty.
Then, she suddenly found herself turned on. "I realized I was letting him see me vulnerable – which is completely different from how I usually come across."
"The great thing about playing this role is that you can say: 'I want this,' 'I want that' – and, of course, if you don't get it, you stomp your feet," explains Patty.
Until "daddy’s" had enough of her brattiness and has to give her a spanking, of course.
Patty says a lot of age-players aren't necessarily in it for the sex. "Some just get an emotional satisfaction out of acting a different age."
Her favourite role is a 12-year-old Catholic-school-girl type. "It doesn't feel too vulnerable," she explains. "It's just a fun, naughty age to play. You know enough to act sexy, but you're too young to know what to expect."
Patty says the more intimate she is with someone, the younger she is willing to play, but she admits that playing anything under five starts to feel too vulnerable for her. "It can be extremely embarrassing, or even frustrating," she says, though she has played mommy to men in diapers.
"You give them a bottle, change their diapers, put them to bed." Patty draws the line at dirty diapers, however. "That sets off all kinds of hygiene alarms for me. I won't even let anyone into the bathroom while I'm in there."
She says she finds more men are into infantilism than women. "I knew a guy who liked to be in diapers who was very successful, very handsome – an overachiever, who was very John Wayne about everything. In diapers was the only time he could cry."
Apparently, age-play isn’t just about being young and innocent. Another guy Patty knows liked to role-play with older women. He's into corsets and all things Victorian, and older women remind him of his grandma, who used to wear corsets. Let's not even try to pull that one apart.
But the little-girl roles do tend to be the most popular, says Patty. "Most people's epitome of what's angelic and vulnerable is a little girl."
Patty's not so into angelic. In fact, she wants to get into role-playing little boys and has recently found a new playmate who’s into it. "I like the idea of playing a boy who gets into trouble just because he's overly rambunctious."
So basically, she just wants to be a big brat and age-play lets her get away with it and get sex, too. Not a bad deal.
Patty warns those who want to get into age-play to be careful – sometimes this kind of play can unleash unexpected emotional reactions.
"As with all types of 'special' relationships," she stresses, "it's important to be with someone you trust, or it could get ugly."
Repeat after me: safe, sane and consensual.
After all, this isn't kids’ stuff. |
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